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COUNSELLING SERVICE

weekly, 50min counselling sessions

 

Monday evenings - online

Friday - face-to-face in Epsom, Surrey

Languages: English or German

My counselling services are offered both face-to-face and via video call.

Depending on individual circumstances, sometimes due to limits to privacy in clients' homes, I take a more flexible approach (e.g. sessions via phone).

The details below aim to offer an introduction to how I approach therapy. Select other pages on this site to learn more about my background or receive resources for immediate support.

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“As no one else can know how we perceive, we are the best experts on ourselves.”
Carl Rogers

There are many different ways of delivering counselling, which can pose quite a challenge for clients choosing to find their preferred approach. Generally, I believe there is no right or wrong approach but rather, that some way of working may be more or less helpful for specific needs of the individual person and within their unique circumstances. Therefore, I rely on my clients' expertise on their lives and their engagement in the process to help guide their unique approach. What might feel helpful for one client, might feel disruptive to another.

In my training as a counselling psychologist, I have been introduced to the three schools of psychotherapy (person-centred / humanistic therapies, psychodynamic therapies, and Cognitive-Behavioural Therapies). Whilst my personal approach has been influenced by all three schools, I predominantly take a relational psychodynamic appraoch. This means, I meet my clients with congurence, empathy and unconditional positive regard, as well as confidence in your capacity for growth. Equally, I recognise the impact of past experiences, particularly those in childhood, that are now influencing concious and unconcious experiences in the here and now.

“In hatred as in love, we grow like the thing we brood upon. What we loathe, we graft into our very soul.”

Mary Ainsworth

One of the main theories I work with is attachment theory. This theory considers how our relationships, and the safety and danger we experience in those relationships, shape our way of engaging in the world.

The parents, or primary caregivers, play a crucial part in this development, as they shape the nature in which we relate to others, ourselves and the world. However, as we grow up, and our relationships become more complex, our relational templates grow more complex also. Sometimes this results in strategies that have previously been necessary and helpful, not being so helpful after all.

At the core of my work lies the therapeutic relationship - our relationship. In our work, I hope to provide a safe space, and meet you with stability, and warmth. Grounded by my humanistic values, I am not here to judge you, or anyone in your life, but rather help you make sense of your experiences.

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